Blog Post #3
1. One internal tension RDT proposes is connection-autonomy, and one external tensIon RDT proposes is Inclusion-Seclusion. Internally, the connection-autonomy struggle is the balance between being able to do things independently of your partner in a relationship, versus wanting to connect or bond with this person. For example, your partner may enjoy watching the superbowl and you’ll want to watch with them to bond- but you also know you hate football, so you have to decide if putting aside your dislike of the sport is worth making your partner happy for a few hours. Externally, this struggle refers to a pairs ‘inclusion with and seclusion from other people in their social network’ (Griffin, pg. 135). An example of this could be a couple being invited to celebrate a holiday at their relatives house, but not being sure if they want to attend or not- even if they think it's what they 'should' do.
2. The approach of relational communication championed by Baxter and Montgomery states that talk about relationships is the essence of close ties, such as a classroom talking about a budding romance amongst them, your friends talking about their strict parents, or other such things (Griffin, pg. 131). In comparison to social penetration theory and uncertainty reduction theory, I think this goes hand-in-hand, in terms of people getting to know each other by relating to other relationships they know of, or talking about said relationships. You chip away at any uncertainty by referring to someones parents, partner, friends, or other people that you both know: and this can help you find things to relate to and to help get to know one another.
3. One route to becoming a co-owner of information is through being told a secret, or telling someone else a secret. If the thing you’re telling someone else or being told is just regular information, then you’re still a co-owner: but the level of responsibility isn’t high. However, if it is indeed a secret, then the level of responsibility to not tell anyone increases drastically.
4. A person's privacy can be managed online by them choosing what to put out on their social media pages, or what not to put out. People can also choose to not put anything out online, by simply not being on social media at all. One dialectical tension that can affect boundaries that are unique to online relationships is stability and change, in particular the external dialectic of conventionality and uniqueness. Discourses of conventionality consider how a relationship is similar to other rela- tionships, while discourses of uniqueness emphasize difference. (Griffin, pg. 136) Because social media is presenting a version of ourselves out there for people to see, we may struggle with showing information to people that makes us seem ‘normal’, versus wanting to also show people parts of our relationship that we deem unique and special to us.
Hi Justin ! Great post . I like how your post is short, simple, and to the point. I also agreed with you when you mentioned that social penetration theory and uncertainty reduction go hand in hand with people getting to know each other because knowing it, we engage in these conversations and situations on a daily basis. I like how both theories all come share the fact that we are essentially in control of how people may perceive us and create predisposed ideas of who we truly are. In doing this, we're able to maintain autonomy while still being able to share information that we WANT to share with others which brings us to other encounters like how we manage our online privacy and presence as you mention in question 4. Good post !
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